That being said, I also know firsthand what losing hope about finding love can feel like. Spoiler: It's not great. For those of you who haven't been there, let me paint you a picture. You've been single for what feels like forever. The last person you met was really great and you even saw a future with them.
Around might be love. There might be commitment. There might be a concrete friendship at its core. Worth it — but hard. Desire feeds animal intimacy which in turn feeds association, nurturance and the protective guard about relationships. Intimate relationships in which appeal has faded can take on the shape of housemates or colleagues. Around can still be love and a deep emotional bond in these relationships, there might even still be femininity, but without desire the way we see ourselves and feel about ourselves changes and will ultimately play absent in the relationship. Understanding the character of desire is key to accomplishment it back. The intensity of appeal in relationships will ebb and arise.