Medically Reviewed iStock The nature of sexual fantasies is they push the boundaries a bit, letting you imagine situations that occur infrequently, if at all, and exploring the depths of your desires. Men tend to have core thematic fantasies that they can return to again and again, he adds, and then there are fantasies that men would enjoy in the way they surf TV, exploring what catches their eye or their mood. Having His Partner Pursue Him and Take Charge Shutterstock Perhaps one of the simplest male sexual fantasies is just having his partner direct the sex script for the night. Whether it's a full-on dominatrix or simply a partner who knows what they want and how to get it, many men find the thrill of a confident and sexual partner to be very appealing, explains Laura BermanPhD, a sex expert and author of Loving Sex: The Book of Joy and Passion. Feeling pursued can be a very sexy changeand it can also be a huge ego boost, she says. Schwartz and her colleagues surveyedadults about their marriages, touching on topics including money and sexual fantasies. Could More Be Merrier? Having a Threesome iStock What could be better than one woman?
Sexting Not Just for Kids. Read These fantasies decrease as we get older, though. Of those surveyed, more than half the men in their 50s say they are thinking sexy thoughts more than once a day, compared to 12 percent of women. After men reach their 60s, the common fantasies drop to about 42 percent; and in their 70s, to 27 percent.